You are busting my chops

As a teacher, I have had the chance to observe many leadership styles.

Some teachers were all about positive reinforcement with bells, whistles and stickers. Others used red pen after red pen to correct errors and tell students they “could do better”...

Do I even have to ask the question which style is the most effective?

If you enter any student’s home, I can guarantee you the fridge would bear the A+ paper over the red ink “do better” one. It is too bad that business managers and owners were never really “people trained”. Which leadership style gives a worker the incentive to do better?

According to a PEW RESEARCH Article by Cary Funk and Kim Parker, January 2018:

Women in male majority STEM work settings are particularly likely to say they need to prove themselves at least some of the time at work in order to be respected by their coworkers. When asked, “How often, if ever, do you feel the need to prove yourself at work in order to be respected by your coworkers?,” 17% of employed U.S. adults say “all the time,” another one-third (33%) say some of the time and four-in-ten (40%) say either never or not too often. Women and men in STEM jobs are about equally likely to feel the need to prove themselves “all the time” (15% and 16%, respectively) in order to be respected by their coworkers or bosses."

If you had no blowback from the person in charge of you, what types of reconstructive leadership methods might you suggest to them?

What does it take to feel respected?

The old school style : Tick them off to the point of frustration and anger by telling them they can do better, does little to drive the boat to success. It has never proved to be profitable and often leads to high employee turnover.

As a leader, do you offer examples of goals, objectives, pathways, and mentorship, in a positive way, to your staff members who might be thinking they are working their hardest? Might they need your guidance to best perform?

How many Bad News Bears Movies do you have to watch, as a leader, to decide that being a b… buster boss does not make for a positive work environment?

It has been my experience if you can bolster the confidence of the person who needs help, you will not only get someone who will work harder, but someone more likely to take your lead.

Further, expecting the added workplace perks of modern day innovativers (coffee bars, social get-togethers, cheery work spaces) to take the place of a positive leader’s tutelage is short sighted and superfluous.

The advice is simple.

Be a leader.

You are leading human beings.

Treat them as such.

Answer their questions.

LISTEN to their concerns.

Gently move them forward.

Thanks for listening.

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