Father’s Day is a difficult holiday for me now.
For so many years, I stopped into Nielsen’s and bought my dad the big bottle of English Leather that I was sure he loved. At least it was the scent that reminded me of him.
Without him, yesterday was empty.
I could have felt sorry for myself and my family, but it made me think about other fatherless people. Especially those that really never had a father to celebrate.
I was jolted into the realization that what we all take for granted as a natural, loving family, may be only an illusion.
We so often take for granted the cookie cutter life as being the norm. While it is fun to look at posts on Facebook, let’s not forget those who do not have their dads available.
The National Poll on Fathering points out the following sobering facts:
· An estimated 24.7 million children (33%) live absent their biological father.
· Of students in grades 1 through 12, 39 percent (17.7 million) live in homes absent their biological fathers.
· 57.6% of black children, 31.2% of Hispanic children, and 20.7% of white children are living absent their biological fathers.
· According to 72.2 % of the U.S. population, fatherlessness is the most significant family or social problem facing America.
I really hate to be a buzz kill for all the great dads out there.
Please don’t be upset that I am writing about this before the glow of Father’s Day has worn off.
With it fresh in your mind, I am wondering if we might have some empathy for those who, for whatever reason, do not have what they should.
I think many in the millennial generation look to Facebook to be how things are in real life. It is not a just portrayal of how most people live. It makes the grass always look greener on the other side. For all those that post, there are just as many that do not.
So what is my point?
There are great dad role models out there. There are wonderful mentors who will take the time and energy to fill in that blank.
Will it be you?
Many nonprofit agencies offer volunteer roles for people who really want to make a difference in someone’s life. How many of those who posted will take the uncomfortable step to reach out to someone without?
Will it be you?
Thanks for listening.